Your student needs these five types of people in their life.
As much as I think (and know) that my kids need me, my kids need many different types of people in their lives who are not me. I do all I can to encourage and foster these relationships with adults who I know care about what’s best for my children. These “others” provide many things that I can’t, or I don’t want to give them. Look for these characteristics in others and then provide opportunities for your child to be around them. These people could be your neighbors, coaches or teachers, youth leaders, or adult friends of yours. These types of people are everywhere and can have a profoundly lasting impact on the development of your child.
- Your child needs a caring truth teller who is not you. A person who can offer objective and difficult information to navigate.
- Your child needs a mentor who is not you. A person who lives in a way that is honorable and inspiring and who wants to lead and support your child.
- Your child needs a challenger who is not you. A person who isn’t always happy with “settling” and sees the truest potential in your child.
- Your child needs a consultant who is not you. A person who will give ideas, options, and opinion with the intention of loving and supporting your child, even if they screw up.
- Your child needs an advocate who understands the importance of resiliency. A person who articulates belief and trust that your child has the ability and resources to do hard things.
My hope and prayer is that your children have these people in their lives. If they do, they’ll thank you for it someday.
If you know people like these types who are building up your kids, please tag them and thank them for the important work they do in shaping the people you love.